Like you would ask a sharp colleague: plainly, with names. 'What did we promise Acme about SSO?' beats keyword shards. Follow up in the same thread, she keeps context, and if she does not know, she says so instead of improvising.
The habit shift from search is real: no keyword-golf, no quotes and operators, just the actual question. Compound questions are fine; she decomposes them.
Two power moves: ask 'why' questions, that is where a memory with sources beats any search, and ask 'what do you not know about X', which maps the gaps worth filling.